zaterdag 5 september 2009

Now - sociaal panorama, been there, done that.

Sociaal Panorama - tried it (experienced a session, which set me back a royal 200 euros), did not like it. Too rigid, too much based on the idea of correcting past mistakes. Too much problem oriented instead of solution. However, I am feeling the group, connectedness approach still. Like my NLP minded colleague phrased it: I am looking for the space that the person(s) I meet and I can share.

vrijdag 8 mei 2009

Rediscovering NLP

Just arrived in the mail: Sociale Denkpatronen by Lucas Derks. He's an NLP forerunner over at IEP. Looking forward to a slow but thorough read & annotate (why else buy a book, not borrow from library?). Pencil and book ready at bedside.

Is where I also keep my iPod, charged with some guided meditations purchased at Mabel van den Dungen sells hers there. Brilliant combination of down-to-earth and spiritual. I also quite like the free ones by Jean and Jesse Stern at the I even made a donation last week! They really earned it, I have profited so from their work.

I really need these to help me unwind and stay focussed these days. Not only have I started work 4 days a week, a first since our baby was born; I am also completing my first assignment for my own company; and we decided to go ahead with that kitchen rebuild, since we'd done all the research and prep decisionmaking; so why waste that energy and momentum. Looking forward to 'camping' in our flat and hopefully, a brilliant new downstairs beginning of july, at the latest.

Thank god Florian is starting to sleep nights. He is, of course, amazing as ever.

I am starting to get back to some kind of social life - what is a new working mum to expect, actually? Have gone to dinner friday week, met with a friend also new mum (of her 2nd) today... well, hopefully Derks' ideas help me define some sort of desirable and attainable vision on that aspect of life, too.

dinsdag 14 april 2009

Spells working

The hyacinth's time is already gone. Her smell takes me through the last bit of winter, the grey skies, the rain. Reminding me to look up, even to the clouds. There always is a hole, a patch of light, blue sky even. And of course the blue sky, a watered down view on the universes darkness. The same universe most of us fear so as it knocks on our inside doors, revealing itself as a black hole we must escape - denying ourself the marvel of its stars and eternal wisdom -

But I digress.

Time has moved in my favour and granted me my wishes and more.

Since march 16th, I have started in a new job - as a career coach - which has completely immersed me to the point of drowning - but now, I am starting to enjoy the power of my swimming strokes, the pleasure of being in the water, of being an active part of something bigger.

The first Spellfinder assignment has come my way, and I am trying to squeeze that in, too.

My colleagues provide me with such inspiration, the crossfertilization is going on in such doses I cannot keep up and write about it.

The writing class came to a successfull close march 16th - I am in awe of what the women shared and taught me. I shall leave this endeavour for a month or two, now, to allow myself time for settling in the new job.

I'll see about writing here, too - infrequently for the near future!

dinsdag 3 februari 2009


Yesterday we wrote together. Just four of us in a strip-lit community centre classroom. The white glare, the grey furniture, the uncomfortable chairs. None of us would make you turn your head on the street. Yet it was amazing! At a certain point, I took off my cardigan. I was getting all flushed because of our group thing.

After, I was exhausted, my mind reeling. This is it! What I want to do! This works! Exclamation points after every sentence, the enthusiasm filling my mind with ideas at a disturbingly explosive rate.

Of course, today worry starts taking its usual place, telling me: no room for fantasies!

But the thought of yesterday - we can all have our cake and eat it, too! - the hope, the glory in the glimmer of a future for myself in enabling people to team up in more powerful and satisfying ways - WOW.

A glimpse of treasure. I shall aim to let life's events strengthen my treasure hunt - let each surprise development reveal its next step, shovel up the next spadeful of fertile earth, allow me to sow my seeds of love, faith, belief.

Bring it!

zondag 11 januari 2009

Roles - open canvas

As spellfinder, there are many roles I could play - or put in serious, adult and professional words, jobs I could fulfill excellently.

I have shown success in these roles:
- career counselor
- teammanager
- project consultant
- (blog)writer

Find out more about my experience in these fields under the matching label.

Here are the roles I'd love to apply my skills to, too:
- creativity coach/facilitator
- idea generator
- inspirator
- connector/postiljon d'amour
- verbalizer
- for print writer (topics: "local what's on", "how to", "parenting")
- philosophy writer
- script writer
- lyrics writer
- panelleader
- experimental psych researcher
- talk show host
- interviewer (written, video, audio)
- radio DJ
- accelerator
- negotiator

Under the matching label you'll find experience that shows by past experience how I would execute any of these roles.

Of course, I am a private person with private roles too. The privacy of my loved ones and myself is very valuable to me - we all need our breathing space. I do choose to publish some private information though - the sensitive, specific and appropiate reach of a hand is always welcome. Thank your for treating the information provided with that in mind, and feel fry to about my private roles under that label.

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maandag 5 januari 2009


Just like any other human, I need food, shelter and (like any woman) some nice threads to doll me up (who said it was easy to look this good?!). So yes, money. (find my indicative rates here).

There can be other ways and reasons for us to join up, however. What I am looking for in any cooperative effort, is:

- creating value, something new,
- experimenting
- meeting and working with interesting people
- forming enduring relationships - work or play
- improving the world: make it a better place, with more joy, love, nature, (appreciation of) beauty and kindness
- trying something new
- inspiration by making things happen

Of course, we could barter, too. Check my current wishlist on We'll work out the fiscal details fine - I have an excellent tax specialist on speed dial.

Now, I am no empty vessel. I bring my own values to the table. I coach according to my personal set of beliefs. I think it is important, possibly vital for a functional synergetic relationship, to click on this level, or at least, to let you in on mine upfront, so you can make an informed decision. Find these values in my Profile section.

Results - what to expect

Before we decide to cooperate, we must both see a value to be created through this cooperation. That means me, too. Check under Value to know what I am looking for.

For you, I aim to cocreate:
- an actionable vision (goals, targets, mission statement)
- flexible options or directions: how to get there (ideas for getting started, pointers, and how to keep on moving)
- movement (unblocking) and focus
- attention to details/conditions/process
- (duh) satisfaction

For examples, check under the label Case.

How do I find spells

Master and lover of many languages, I can give words to many unspoken and unconsious things, enabling movement in situations that seem stuck.

I am native Dutch speaker, speak and write fluent English, excellent German and some French and Spanish.

There's also images, music and bodily senses that I can call on to help. Activating all the senses is part of what I do - getting out of that ruminating mind by offering alternatives.

I use creativity enhancing techniques, such as mindmapping and solution focussed coaching.

Finally, there is the use of: the experiment. We shall not talk for hours, I shall help you design experiments to test the waters you want to sail. Through these experiments you shall find behavioral spells that help you get to where you want to go - what to do.

About this blog

I am sculpting, designing my professional persona here.
Whether it be to develop my own clarity of vision and focus, or to publicize it to you. Transparency is a given as I do the development in public.

I shall pour out aspects of this persona in posts using labels for categories:
- tool
- person
- role
- value
- case
- result
- experiment
- partner

Use the labels to read more about any topic.
For example, I shall outline my tools in posts labeled tool.
It is quite possible that the labeling will change in the future - I have to decide how to handle that when it pops up.

I hope you and I both find what we are looking for : )

Cheers, Tess